Confidence Feels Like Shit

Erika Cramer's central argument — that real confidence requires tolerating discomfort rather than waiting for it to pass — is a genuinely useful reframe, and her raw personal story gives it weight. She draws on surviving childhood abuse, foster care, homelessness, and more, and translates that experience into a step-by-step coaching framework with exercises and reflection questions aimed primarily at women. The emotional honesty is the book's strongest quality. That said, faith-family readers should know upfront: the title contains profanity, it appears throughout the text, and the author discusses abortion and same-sex attraction in a positive or neutral framing. The secular coaching framework may also sit uneasily alongside a faith-based worldview. For the right audience this is a bold, practical confidence guide — just not a fit for every family.