Getting Together and Staying Together

Glasser's Choice Theory is a genuinely useful lens for understanding why intimate relationships break down, and having the Glassers' own courtship woven through the argument makes the psychology feel lived-in rather than clinical. The external-control framework — the idea that trying to change or punish your partner is the core relationship destroyer — is simple but not simplistic. It has aged reasonably well, though the 2000 publication date shows in some cultural details.