The Sacrificial Mother

Rubenstein names something many mothers feel but rarely see validated in print — that chronic self-erasure isn't noble, it's harmful to everyone in the family including the children. The social-psychology grounding gives it more credibility than pure memoir, and the practical guidance section moves usefully toward change. The 1999 publication date does show in some cultural framing, and its primary lens is heterosexual married motherhood, but the core argument holds up.